FLV Presents: Handling Children’s Emotional Moments and Aggression

Hi FLVillagers! FLV is excited to welcome the new year by learning more tools to help us communicate consciously with our children. Our vision is to create a conscious parenting movement where our children evolve into unconditionally loving citizens of the Earth! If we take the time to nurture and cultivate this connection with our children now, we are instilling in them not only how they are to themselves but how they interact with others and the planet. If you think about it, we’re not raising children here,we’re raising adults. Please join us for our very first workshop in 2012. Happy New Year to our beautiful, ever-evolving village!

When children’s tensions result in big feelings and aggression—biting, hitting, pushing, kicking—both parent and child need tools. We’ll talk about the root causes of children’s emotional outbursts, how parents and caregivers can help the aggressive child, and how parents and caregivers can address their own tension as they handle difficult situations.

Presented by Sadie Van Gelder & Heidrun Matthies, Hand in Hand Parenting
Saturday, January 14, 2012 @ 6:00 - 7:45 p.m.

Sadie Van Gelder is a Los Angeles–based certified Parenting By Connection instructor for Hand in Hand, a nonprofit organization devoted to nurturing parent-child connection and offering resources, training, and lots of support to parents of young children. A mother of two girls, ages 9 and 5, she is also an editor specializing in articles on psychology and health. As both an editor and a parent, she is constantly on the lookout for trustworthy information, and she says Hand in Hand is the best parenting resource she has come across. “When you're noticing a pattern that isn't ideal, or going through a challenging transition, Hand in Hand offers a different way of looking at all sorts of issues and helping both you and your child,” she says. “Seeing so many benefits for my own family and others makes me want to spread the word.”

Born and raised in Germany, Heidrun Matthies moved to Los Angeles in 2001. After an extensive career in human resources, she was looking forward to changing her life journey by becoming a stay-at-home mother to her now 3.5-year old son. Not ever having been much around babies and children before giving birth herself, Heidrun was in awe and in shock about the complexity of raising children, which seems not to be on the forefront of public concern. Discovering the Parenting by Connection approach put Heidrun at ease and gave her lots of hope that our generation and the one growing up can be capable of tackling the challenges that our times present. By using the various Parenting by Connection listening tools, Heidrun was able to assist her son with his healing journey of several traumatic events as well as overcoming a diagnosed speech disorder. In addition, using this approach has helped her develop closer relationships with her family, friends, other parents and people in general. The successes Heidrun has yielded by using the Parenting by Connection approach inspired her to enroll in the Hand in Hand Instructor Certification Program with the goal to help getting the word out, both in the US and in Germany. Heidrun enjoys facilitating Parenting by Connection Study Groups in Los Angeles and has assisted as a teacher in a toddler drop-off program.


WHEN: Saturday 1/14/2012 @ 6-7:45pm with Potluck to follow

WHERE: The Yogi Tree ~ 4475 Vineland Avenue ~ Toluca Lake, CA 91602

WHAT TO BRING:

$15 per family for the presentation

$8 per family if you plan to use the conscious childcare in the Sprout Lounge. Please RSVP at famluvvillage@gmail.com 2 days BEFORE the workshop


For Dinner, bring: Your own dishware to stay green and a healthy main or side dish for the potluck

As a side note, there will be a booklet "Listening to Children" Set for sale at $25 for those interested. Patty Wipfler warmly and sensibly walks you through the challenges of parenting and explains how children’s emotions work. The booklets cover the tools and opportunities for each of us to do the best possible job of raising children. The booklets that comprise the set are: How Children's Emotions Work, Special Time, Playlistening, Crying, Tantrums and Indignation, Healing Children's Fears, Reaching For Your Angry Child, Setting Limits, and Listening Partnerships for Parents.

Please know that when there is something of value that FLV feels families can benefit from, we will allow the opportunity to purchase items after the workshop. Since conscious parenting is FLV’s primary goal in helping to co-create a conscious parenting movement, having easy access to these resources on hand is important to give these options for families that are interested. Please know you are not obligated to purchase any of these resources unless desired. Thank you.

The FLV Experience at Dance to Freedom - Sat 12/22/11

We are also excited to announce that the FLV Experience will be participating in a life-expanding immersion event for families called Dance to Freedom. It is located at a breathtaking location called the Hummingbird Nest Ranch.

FLV will be providing some fun and educational workshops and presentations based on FLV's heart principles of conscious parenting and eco-holistic living. And of course the EAKK! (EcoArt Kidz Kollectiv!) program will be there to provide fun activities for the kids.

Not only will we be providing some of the eco-educational fun but our very own FLVillage DJ, FatFinger will be bringing out the beats for us to dance to (among other amazing djs and musicians).


Dance to Freedom :: December 22 Ceremony & Winter Solstice Celebration

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Dance & create with me 12/22 all night in Simi/LA area http://dancetofreedom.eventbrite.com for passes, kids free!

NEWS TO SHARE:

• 21 hours of extraordinary experiences designed to empower transformational families

• Workshops in movement, music, monkey chant, arts, creative expression, communication

• Family ceremony and arts event for the start of winter on December 22nd, ceremony at 6PM

• Private all night celebration includes live and DJ music, performance and movement arts

• Create new rituals with your family with remarkable workshop leaders for music, healthy living, embodied care

Hosted by Be Embodied, a women-led startup creating safe, healthy space for families to communicate and connect

BYOB - No alcohol will be served at this event and we aim to Leave No Trace - pack all items in and out to camp

Find freedom in your body. Be present and joyful with your extended family. Encourage transformational expression

This is a private event and no tickets will be sold at the gate - passes are limited and some will sell out

Doors open for the celebration at 9pm with featured DJs including Treavor Moontribe, Jesse Wright, DJ Fatfinger, Hooni and more to be announced as Project Alma hosts the lawn stage. The Be Embodied Adornment Gallery will feature an indoor unplugged lounge, maker galleries, gifts and surprises all night. Enjoy conscious vending and the palatial patio at the Hummingbird Nest Ranch with hot tub, fire area, healthy food, amazing music and art throughout this expansive ranch.

Stretch yourself in new ways, weave a net of gems for your life and prepare to be your most brilliant on 12/22 with friends and family!

WHERE

Hummingbird Nest Ranch

Simi Valley, CA

North of the 118/Kuehner Road



WHEN

Thursday December 22nd - Friday December 23rd


3PM: Gates Open

4PM: Workshops and Adornment Gallery Features

6PM: Ceremony Gathering Circle

7-9PM: Winter Solstice Ceremony: Weaving Indra's Net

9PM: Gates Re-open for Celebration

Gallery closes late, music all night

Noon on 12/23: Leave No Trace

COST

Ceremony & Celebration: $50 in Advance by 12/21

Ceremony & Celebration: $30 for Youth 16-20

Ceremony & Celebration: Free for Kids

Celebration: $30 for Adults by 12/22

Celebration: $15 for Youth 16-20

Celebration: Free for Kids

Maker/Vending/Artist Space: $60-$100 for space to sell your works

Angel and Sponsorships Available for Your Installation Experience (house rentals also available)

Tickets: http://dancetofreedom.eventbrite.com


http://www.dancetofreedom.com/


Facebook: Join/Attend the event, invite your friends: https://www.facebook.com/events/278472965527111/

FLV's Winter Solstice Celebration on Sat 12/17/11

I wanted to share something with all of you. This past weekend I was part of an amazing Goddess Ceremony where we released old thoughts/patterns that no longer served us and proclaimed new ones that we wanted to manifest for the new year. This reminded me of a very similar ritual FLV did last year.

So I wanted to add one more thing that we will be doing for Dec. 17th's gathering. Not only will we be having an awesome workshop with Jessica Deltac but it will also be FLV's Winter Solstice Celebration that evening. And to continue in FLV's tradition, we will be doing a ceremony called "Releasing of the Old and Igniting of the New".

How this ritual works:

1. At the end of the workshop, each person will be handed 2 pieces of paper.

2. On one piece of paper, you will be asked to write down an old pattern/old behavior that no longer serves who you are or want to be as a parent/spouse/individual.

3. On the 2nd piece of paper, you will be asked to write down a conscious behavior/pattern or way of being that you would like to manifest as a conscious parent/spouse/individual for the new year.

4. The first piece of paper will be immersed in water. Last year, we burned the pieces of paper but since we will be inside the Yogi Tree, we will put the pieces of paper in water. 

**Since we are not able to burn the pieces of paper in the yoga studio, another way to release them is into water.

5. The 2nd pieces of paper you get to keep as a reminder. I would suggest keeping it somewhere that you have easy access to reading it as a reminder of what you want to shift in your lives. A good suggestion: on your refrigerator so that you can see it every day.

We are excited to be sharing this Winter Solstice ritual with all of you this year and hope that all of you can join us for FLV's Winter Solstice Celebration and a very informative workshop with Jessica Deltac on How Parental Fear Gets In the Way of Our Children Finding Their Passion!

And if you'd like to also join us, we will be having a Playdate For A Cause (PFAC) the day after on Sunday 12/18/11 "Wrapping From the Heart".

To get more details, please contact us at famluvvillage@gmail.com.  Thank you.

Peace & Ignition,

Your FLVillage Tribe

FLV's Playdate For a Cause (PFAC): Wrapping From the Heart

Greetings FLVillagers!


As we enjoy this special time of year and take note of our incredible lives with gratitude in our hearts, let us look at how we can spread this abundance to our community, city, and planet.

One way is by donating and volunteering your time. Here is a fantastic website listing a number of well-established charities that makes it easy to do the research on what organizations might interest you: Charity Navigator.

How Our Village Can Be of Service -

Upcoming Playdates for a Cause (PFAC):

There are a few great organizations in need of our help and we are definitely open to suggestions.

I am in touch with a couple of local shelters that work with homeless women, teens, and children, (Good Shepard Shelter), as well as one for domestic violence survivors.

FLV is planning to gather gifts for all the mothers and children and would like to invite you and your families to be a part of this PFAC with us.

To stay within the spirit of our EAKK! (EcoArt Kidz Kollectiv!) Program, we are asking families to bring gently used items from your home. If you don't have anything gently used, we are requesting if you could please purchase something new that isn't wrapped in plastic. The items could be in the form of adult and children's clothes, toys, books, baby items, such as blankets, baby bottles, etc. It is our intention to provide 30 gifts for 11 mothers and 20 male and female children, ages 1-15.

We will be utilizing the philosophy of our EAKK! program by using recycled shopping paper bags, re-usable gift bags, newspapers, and any other recycled wrapping materials (i.e. burlap bags, etc) that you may have in your home to wrap the gifts instead of going out and buying wrapping paper. This PFAC also gives us an opportunity as creative inspiration for our sprouts to draw pictures on the "wrapping paper" to give their own personalized touch.

We will be providing some wrapping materials, such as shopping bags, scissors (including some kid-safe scissors), tape, glue, and crayons but if you have some recyclable materials that you would like to bring to create more pizzazz for the sprouts to use, we would greatly appreciate it.

We will meet at The Yogi Tree for our "Wrapping From the Heart"event on Sun Dec 18th between 2 -4pm. Please bring your donated items and/or recycled wrapping materials. Holiday snacks to share are welcome, but optional.

We're excited that we will be able to help out several families in need and hope that you can join us for this PFAC!

Sincere Gratitude and Holiday Hugs!
From the FLVillage Team

FLV Presents: How Parental Fear Gets in the Way of Children Finding their Passion

Jessica Deltac with her 2 adorable daughters taken 3 years ago.  Her 2 daughters are now 7 and 4.

Join us for a very informative workshop facilitated by guest speaker, Jessica Deltac - author of the blog Mudpies & Butterflies: Where Families Learn Alongside Each Other (www.thedeltacs.com) and founder of educational parkday of the same name.


It is natural to protect our children from emotional harm and physical injury, but at times this protection prevents children from engaging in their world. Due to inbred fear, a child may not even view it as their world. By experiencing new stimulus and risks, children and adults are free to discover the genesis of their calling. Jessica Deltac believes that passions are the most positive form of motivation for all people. Most parents want their children to be led by their passions, but have difficulty with loosening the reigns enough to allow the freedom to discover them on their own. In order to connect to our passions – we must be brave, supported and open-minded. A legacy that all FLV parents strive to endow.

Come experience a shift in perspective about time, safety and communication to best empower your child on their path of connecting to their passions (from infancy – teendom).

TOPICS TO BE DISCUSSED:

- What if I could have prevented the ow-ee? Embracing natural harm – a wise teacher.

- How do you avoid the tick-tock? Unnecessary stressors in punctuality

- What lies between words and furrowed brows? Unraveling our meta messages as parents

- Will she/he ever be old enough to hold a saw? Understanding and encouraging successful risk-taking

- What if I know nothing about what they love? Allowing mentors into your child's life


To get a jumpstart on the workshop read Jessica's blog The Safe Way to Saw.
As well as the 2 links in the first paragraph: Ted Talk on 5 Dangerous things we should allow our kids to experience and NYTimes article – Are Playgrounds too Safe?

Jessica Deltac has a Masters in Clinical Psychology from Antioch University here in Los Angeles, as well as, an undergraduate degree from the University of NC in Chapel Hill in Religious Studies. Her path of attachment parenting began on her first date with her husband who shared that he wanted all of his children to be homebirthed. Her bumper sticker on the family car now reads: Happy Family Onboard! We homebirth, co-sleep, breastfeed, homeschool and enjoy each other's company daily. Are you this Happy?

WHEN: Saturday 12/17/2011

WHERE: The Yogi Tree ~ 4475 Vineland Avenue ~ Toluca Lake, CA 91602

WHAT TO BRING:

$15 per family for the presentation

$8 per family if you plan to use the conscious childcare in the Sprout Lounge. Please RSVP at famluvvillage@gmail.com 2 days BEFORE the workshop

For Dinner, bring: Your own dishware to stay green and a healthy main or side dish for the potluck

And please join us for our holiday PFAC: Wrapping From the Heart the following Sunday 12/18/11 from 2-4pm.

 We will also be celebrating the Winter Solstice this evening by joining in FLV's tradition "Releasing of the Old and Igniting of the New".

For further details and/or questions about either event, please email famluvvillage@gmail.com. Thank you.